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Today was such a great day in the beginning and then I think just got progressively worse. Does that ever happen to you, you have a GREAT morning and you think nothing can stop being wonderful and then WHAM! Well, let me explain...this morning my Parents drove all the way up from Morgan to go to the Logan Temple with us. I have never been to this temple before and was super excited. My little bro. Joe came and watched the kids for us while we went. It was an AMAZING very spiritual session and I felt so blessed. It is such a beautiful temple and Craig and I will have to make sure we got more often. Really great to be there with my parents.
After the temple, we stopped and got some yummy Arbies, came home and ate with Joe and the kids. Thanks Dad & Mom for the wonderful morning...I hope you know how much I love you :)
This is a picture of Joe and kids when we came home....Look at Ky
My little (dirty) Sleeping beauty or as Ky says, "Sleeping bootie"


Soooo- onto the afternoon, I sat and folded some laundry and watched my favorite show "Friends" I have all seasons on DVD and can I just say, WHY, oh why did they have to go! I love that show and laugh even though I have seen it probably at least 3x. It makes folding laundry a little more bearable :)After "Friends" our new Friends Betsy & Jory invited us to go to Hardware Ranch. I don't know if any of you have heard of that place, but it is an Elk reserve and they take you on hay rides around to look at the Elk and it is only like $5 a person...kids free. So, I am excited to go because I am thinking this will be something new and fun. Here are only a few (not so great) pictures It wasn't very easy to take them cause we had to be sitting most the time.

Well- onto when the day started to go bad. To make a long story short, the kids were AWFUL. Mckay was ornery, whiny, and rude the entire time and Kylin threw about two fall down on the ground screaming tantrums. I was sitting in the parking lot talking to my friend Betsy after we got off the ride, while her little boy sat quietly in the car. MY kids, on the other hand, start screaming and running all over the parking lot. We didn't really get to finish our conversations and had to leave. I am sure she is NEVER going to invite me to do anything again because my kids were so AWFUL. I was SO SO embarrassed. Kylin was screaming, so I just left her on the sidewalk and walked away cause I couldn't take another minute. Craig, brought them to the car while I sat there and BAWLED my eyes out the whole way home.

I don't know what I am doing wrong as a mother. I feel like a COMPLETE failure. I can't even teach my kids to be polite and civilized and maybe just listen to me ONE TIME. Seriously, you would think they were starving or tired, but no...they had a nap before we left, and treats while we were there. They are just so naughty sometimes (lots of the times) and I just don't know what to do. I need help because I am doing something wrong. I don't see everyone else's kids acting like that. Please any advice...PLEASE. Anyways, sorry to go on for so long- I don't know if any of you are still reading this :) I am not having a pity party here, it just feels good to get it off my chest. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. I think I will go to bed at like 8 tonight and try not to cry....

19 comments :

10zfam said...

seriously, my kids did the same thing at Lowe's today. both of them were throwing fits on the floor. i've seriously been thinking about what i'm doing wrong as a mom all week because cambree has been a brat all week.
aaaah!

BensonFam said...

You are doing nothing wrong! EVERYONE'S kids do this at one time or another - try to think of all the sweet stuff to get you through and remember that a four year old has only been on the earth for roughly 48 months - certainly not very long and not long enough to be behaved and in control of their emotions all of the time. You're the best Kel - I really do look up to you as a mom. P.s. I have a goofy picture of us up at Hardward Ranch holding antlers above our heads at a ward activity once upon a time.

The Taylor Family said...

This is going to be really weird but I could not help it. I found your blog through Britt and Landon and I love looking it at it. When I first found it I couldn't help but think what a fun, creative and sweet person that you are and it comes alive through your blog. But one of the things that always struck me the most was what a fun, cool, and good mom you seem to be. I'm sure it means nothing coming from some stranger but I thought you should know that even an outsider thinks you are great.
p.s. my little is a stink almost EVERYDAY:)

Amy said...

I don't know if I have much advice and maybe I'm doing something wrong also, but I can totally relate. I have been in that situation more than once. I have now limited the places I go knowing what I can and can't handle. As they get older I find that we go and do more. I also say this because Berk is working a lot so I'm usually on my own to handle these things. I also seem to be calmer the less I worry about what those around me think. ha ha Good Luck and know that you are definitely not alone!!!

Jonathan & Heather said...

no advice here- I only have a 4 month old, but I am sure I will have my share of tantrums to deal with when he grows up! I am sure even kids who are normally angels have their moments, so don't feel bad. Oh, Jon and I love Super Nanny! Maybe watch some of those tapes and get tips- Jon and I are totally going to use her tips and tricks when Rowan is older. I hope tomorrow goes better for you! Nice new header....again! ha ha ha

.:Bree:. said...

I went to HS with Craig, and totally stumbled upon your blog about a month ago. To boot I digi scrap as well and your layouts are awesome so I stuck around. :) Hope you don't mind lol

I have two kids. a 4yo girl and an 18mo boy.

They are just the same. I try so hard. It's not you. It's kids. In general. They can be angels one moment and then something comparable to spawn of satan the next. Sorry, it's true.

Things Ive learned: don't take it personally, most parents have been there and if they say their kids are well behaved they are lying. lol
My 4 yo throws all out tantrums when she wants something. On the ground tantrums. In stores.

I am mortified.

I feel your pain. I do.
If I start laughing it catches her off guard. Every time.

Try it. :)

Just remember later you can torture them with the super cute scrapbook page you did because you were laughing and snapping the camera. :)

Good luck hon. And you ARE a good mom. I see that through your blog. :)

Ben and Camille said...

Ok so I don't have any kid advice...I'll probably be the one asking YOU by the time we have one...but I did want to say you ROCK because you love FRIENDS so much! Talk to my husband, it is on ALL THE TIME. I have watched all seasons (well probably only 5-8 becaue they're my favorite) 10 times! We are so alike! :)
Oh and I will say, you're kids might be more wild than most...but that's ok because they're CUTER than most! Seriously!

{irene} said...

Oh girl!!!....you are not a bad mother!!..I'm sure!!....

The Razzle Dazzle Family said...

I know just how you feel. I wonder the samething with my little girl. And I get SO frustrated sometimes I have to walk off and put myself in time out. I just have to tell myself that all kids have moments like this (even though I think my daughter has them more than others). Kelley you are such a sweet, great mom. You are doing nothing wrong but I do know how you feel. Trust me by just reading your blog and knowing you, you are doing nothing wrong you are GREAT!!

Megan said...

It's probably because they are kids and all kids act like that at times. At least that is what I try and tell myself when Anna is doing the same thing. It doesn't change the fact that it stinks that it always seems to happen when others are around and watching and we think they are judging. But seriously Kelley, you are fantabulous mom. You posts always inspire me to play more with my kids and be fon loving like you are. They are so lucky to have you!

Jenny said...

I totally tell you are a good mom through your blog! Everyones kids are like that now and again....and some more often. It is hard being a mom sometimes and I am glad we can all relate! Hang in there!

Amy said...

I think you are a great mom! Everyone has bad days. Actually the bad days seem to outnumber the good days, and I always feel like a huge failure. But, I honestly think the best thing you can do with your kids at their young ages is love them, play with them, and have fun with them. And the good news for you is that you do those things!

I actually think my kids biggest problem right now is being cooped up in the house all winter long. I cannot wait until they can run around outside and be wild.

I love you! I miss you!

-Amy

Peter Lee Family said...

I am so thankful for that story because I am one smart comment away from throwing Ashlyn in the garbage can! So, apparently either we are both doing something wrong or it is our kids own fault-hopefully it is the latter of the two!:)

Chelsie said...

first of all, i love your new header! it is so stinkin cute!! kelley you are a wonderful mom!! i think they are just kids, and they act out. you are always doing such fun and creative things with them...they are so lucky!

Kim said...

I KNOW you are a good mommy. I have seen you in action and I also sympathize and know how hard it is to be good at it. But we are doing fine and each day is a new day to try again. Your kids are great kids - really truly! Believe that and believe that you are doing a great job. Prayer has been my life saver and comfort. It was fun seeing you up there! Love ya!

Erin said...

Oh Kelley I have more days like this then not...really I do! I sometimes too feel like I am doing something wrong and I have to remind myself that it is just the age. They want a little more freedom then what I am willing to give (running in the streets, peeing on the floor, back talking, hitting...you get my idea on what I deal with :) I too think it is hard during the winter months! I can not wait for summer so the kids can just run wild outside and release some of that energy! I don't know you all that well (but I am getting to know you better through this blogging world) and I have to say I think you are one of the neatest people and I think those little kiddies of yours are very lucky to have such a fun mom! We will all get through this...you are not alone :)

Kristina said...

All I have to say is that I am so sorry. It is very frustrating when your kids act out in public. All I know is that I think you are awesome, and amazing. As my mom tells me when I call her when Trey is out of control (which is all time),just keep on loving them.
Keep it up Kel, you are an amazing mom that I look up too!! thanks for everything!

Keli said...

Haha, you mean I am not the ONLY one that deals with this? Don't forget to laugh at it, thats all I can ever do. Even if it is not till the next day! That is were my boys blog comes in. Just remember, you are not alone in this!

Leah said...

Kate is to the age where she throws tantrums all the time. I have friends who have these kids that just sit there and behave...never whine or cry. Its embarassing for me, because kate is running around everywhere, wont listen to a thing I say and she is noisy and whiny. LOVELY. Its really exhausting, but...I think its a phase. Can you imagine what its like for me and Chris at church? Yeah, I think I will throw her in nursery a LITTLE EARLIER than 18 months :). Anyway, dont get down...kids have their naughty phases, hopefully it will go by fast. Oh, and I notice that being stern is hard, but really helps!! (Im sure you already do that...I just started...its hard for me, but consistency is a big deal)